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How to cultivate children's self-esteem

How to cultivate children's self-esteem

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(Summary description)Self-esteemreferstoaperson'sself-worthorself-image,whichisanoverallevaluationoftheindividual.Highself-esteempeoplehaveagoodsenseofself-worthandapositiveself-image,andpeoplewithlowself-esteemhavealowself-worthandanegativeself-image.Self-esteemplaysanimportantroleinthegrowthofchildrenandistheinternalmotivationforchildren'sself-improvement.Achildwithhighself-esteemisfullofconfidenceinherabilityandvalue.Sheisoptimisticaboutlearningandliving,andexperiencesthejoyofsuccess.Onthecontrary,achildwithlowself-esteemalwaystendstodenyhisabilityandvalue,lacksthemotivationtobeaggressive,andispronetoemotionalexperienceofinferiority,helplessnessandanxiety,whichhasmanynegativeeffectsonthedevelopmentofmindandbody.Children'sself-esteemisgraduallyestablishedindailylife.Theattitudesandwaysofparentstreatingchildrenhaveanimportantimpactontheformationofchildren'sself-esteem.Therefore,infamilyeducation,parentsshouldunderstandandrespectchildrenontheonehand,carefullycareforthechild'stenderandsensitivemind,protectthechild'sself-esteemandprotectitfromharm;ontheotherhand,parentsshouldadoptappropriateeducationalmethodsandgraduallycultivateChildren'sself-esteem.First,parentsshouldacceptchildren.Acceptingchildrenrequiresparentstoaffirmthechild'sstrengthsandachievements,aswellastoacceptthechild'sshortcomingsanddeficiencies.Onlywhenthechildisaffirmed,acceptedandrecognizedbytheparents,andissurethattheparentstrulylovehimwillgainasenseofsecurityandthuslayagoodfoundationforbuildingself-esteem.WhenVinyWright,thedaughteroftheAmericaneducatorMrs.Sterna,wasfiveyearsold,shewasalreadyaveryassertivechild.Oneday,theywentonanoutingwithsomefriends.Becauseitwasspring,everyoneworearelaxedspringdress,butVinyWrighthadtowearhergreencoatbecauseshethoughtthegreencoatlookedgood.Mrs.Stenasaidtoherdaughter:"Itisnotwinternow,theweatherishot.Ifyougooutinacoat,itwillbeverydifficult."Butthedaughterinsistedonherownopinion.Attheplaceofplay,theotherchildrenworelightclothes,andonlyVenefitwaswearingathickcoatandsweatinghot.Shenoticedthatotherchildrenwerelookingatherwithstrangeeyes,soshewantedtofindanexcusetoleave.Atthistime,Mrs.Stenatookoutthespringclothesshehadpreparedforherdaughter.Shesavedherself-esteembysavingherdaughterfromhershackleswithoutrevealinghertraces.Inthisregard,Mrs.Stenasaid:"Ifyoudon'tbringyourdaughteraspringoutfitthatday,letherendurethediscomfortcausedbybeingtoothick,andthestrangevisionofotherchildren,orinfrontofeveryone.Laughingather,itwilldefinitelyhurtherself-esteem."Onthecontrary,ifparentsdonotacceptchildren,itwillhurtthechild'sself-respect.Thethree-year-oldYueYueandafewfour-year-oldchildrenplaythegameof"race"together.Becausetheyareyounger,theyalwaysfallbehind.Despitethis,hedidn'tcare,andhestillhadagoodtimewithhisfriends.Butthemoreandmoremotherlookedangryattheside,shebegantomarryherson:"Howdoyoubesostupid,alwaysrunawayfromothers."Shesquattedandglaredathim.ThemoreandmorereluctantlyIburstintotears.Themoreandmoremothersdidnotrealizethatthesonandthesmallpartnerraced,didnotcareabouttheoutcomeofthegame,butenjoyedthejoyofthegame;shedidnotrealizethatitwasnothissonwhowasstupidtorunattheend,andItisbecausehisageissmallerthanotherchildren;shedoesnotevenrealizethatsheisscoldinghersonbecauseshecan'tacceptthefactthathersonisrunningintheend,hurtinghisself-esteem.Second,parentsshouldencouragetheirchildrentotryboldlyandexperiencesuccessindoingthings.Ifchildrencandothingsindependentlyandcontinuetoexperiencesuccessintheprocessofdoingthings,theywillbeconvincedoftheirabilityandformapositiveself-evaluationtoimprovetheirself-esteem.Therefore,parentsshouldletgoattherighttimeandletthechildrendothingsindependently.Ifparentsdoeverything,itwillnotonlymakechildrendeveloplazyhabits,butalsomakechildrendoubttheirability,thusaffectingtheformationofself-esteem.Itisneithertoodifficultnortooeasyforparentstolettheirchildrendo.Thedifficultylevelshouldbeachievedbythechildthroughhardwork.ThefamouseducatorChenHeqinaskedhissontosendalettertohisteacherwhenhissonwastwoyearsoldandelevenmonthsold.(Theplacewheretheteacherlived,twohundredyardsawayfromtheirhome),ChenHeqinfarawayLookingattheback.Atfirst,IknockedonthefrontdoorofMr.,butbecausetherewasnopromise,Iheardit.ChenHeqinsawhimcomingbackandranovertohimandsaid,"Gotothebackdoor."Hewenttothebackdoor.WhenIsawapersonathome,Igavethislettertohim.Inthisregard,ChenHeqinsaid:"Ifthethingsdonearetooeasy,thenthechildrenarenothappytodoit,thesecondisnotenterprising,andthethirdisthattheparentslookdownonhimandaskhimtodosuchaneasything,IamafraidNothappy;onthecontrary,theparentstoldhimtodothingsthatweretoodifficult,thenthechildrenwereafraidtodoit,andthesecondthoughtthattheparentsabusedhimandtoldhimtodosuchadifficultthing,andhewouldhatehisparentsinthefuture.Therefore,itisnottooeasyforaparenttocallachildtodothings.Itisnottoodifficult.Whenhecandowhathecan,heiscalledtodoit."Mysonlikestowatchmecooksincechildhood.Whenhewastwoorthreeyearsold,whenIwascooking,Iaskedhimtodosomesimplethingsforme,suchaspeelinggarlicandstirringeggliquid.Whenhewasfourorfiveyearsold,Iaskedhimtodosom

How to cultivate children's self-esteem

(Summary description)Self-esteemreferstoaperson'sself-worthorself-image,whichisanoverallevaluationoftheindividual.Highself-esteempeoplehaveagoodsenseofself-worthandapositiveself-image,andpeoplewithlowself-esteemhavealowself-worthandanegativeself-image.Self-esteemplaysanimportantroleinthegrowthofchildrenandistheinternalmotivationforchildren'sself-improvement.Achildwithhighself-esteemisfullofconfidenceinherabilityandvalue.Sheisoptimisticaboutlearningandliving,andexperiencesthejoyofsuccess.Onthecontrary,achildwithlowself-esteemalwaystendstodenyhisabilityandvalue,lacksthemotivationtobeaggressive,andispronetoemotionalexperienceofinferiority,helplessnessandanxiety,whichhasmanynegativeeffectsonthedevelopmentofmindandbody.Children'sself-esteemisgraduallyestablishedindailylife.Theattitudesandwaysofparentstreatingchildrenhaveanimportantimpactontheformationofchildren'sself-esteem.Therefore,infamilyeducation,parentsshouldunderstandandrespectchildrenontheonehand,carefullycareforthechild'stenderandsensitivemind,protectthechild'sself-esteemandprotectitfromharm;ontheotherhand,parentsshouldadoptappropriateeducationalmethodsandgraduallycultivateChildren'sself-esteem.First,parentsshouldacceptchildren.Acceptingchildrenrequiresparentstoaffirmthechild'sstrengthsandachievements,aswellastoacceptthechild'sshortcomingsanddeficiencies.Onlywhenthechildisaffirmed,acceptedandrecognizedbytheparents,andissurethattheparentstrulylovehimwillgainasenseofsecurityandthuslayagoodfoundationforbuildingself-esteem.WhenVinyWright,thedaughteroftheAmericaneducatorMrs.Sterna,wasfiveyearsold,shewasalreadyaveryassertivechild.Oneday,theywentonanoutingwithsomefriends.Becauseitwasspring,everyoneworearelaxedspringdress,butVinyWrighthadtowearhergreencoatbecauseshethoughtthegreencoatlookedgood.Mrs.Stenasaidtoherdaughter:"Itisnotwinternow,theweatherishot.Ifyougooutinacoat,itwillbeverydifficult."Butthedaughterinsistedonherownopinion.Attheplaceofplay,theotherchildrenworelightclothes,andonlyVenefitwaswearingathickcoatandsweatinghot.Shenoticedthatotherchildrenwerelookingatherwithstrangeeyes,soshewantedtofindanexcusetoleave.Atthistime,Mrs.Stenatookoutthespringclothesshehadpreparedforherdaughter.Shesavedherself-esteembysavingherdaughterfromhershackleswithoutrevealinghertraces.Inthisregard,Mrs.Stenasaid:"Ifyoudon'tbringyourdaughteraspringoutfitthatday,letherendurethediscomfortcausedbybeingtoothick,andthestrangevisionofotherchildren,orinfrontofeveryone.Laughingather,itwilldefinitelyhurtherself-esteem."Onthecontrary,ifparentsdonotacceptchildren,itwillhurtthechild'sself-respect.Thethree-year-oldYueYueandafewfour-year-oldchildrenplaythegameof"race"together.Becausetheyareyounger,theyalwaysfallbehind.Despitethis,hedidn'tcare,andhestillhadagoodtimewithhisfriends.Butthemoreandmoremotherlookedangryattheside,shebegantomarryherson:"Howdoyoubesostupid,alwaysrunawayfromothers."Shesquattedandglaredathim.ThemoreandmorereluctantlyIburstintotears.Themoreandmoremothersdidnotrealizethatthesonandthesmallpartnerraced,didnotcareabouttheoutcomeofthegame,butenjoyedthejoyofthegame;shedidnotrealizethatitwasnothissonwhowasstupidtorunattheend,andItisbecausehisageissmallerthanotherchildren;shedoesnotevenrealizethatsheisscoldinghersonbecauseshecan'tacceptthefactthathersonisrunningintheend,hurtinghisself-esteem.Second,parentsshouldencouragetheirchildrentotryboldlyandexperiencesuccessindoingthings.Ifchildrencandothingsindependentlyandcontinuetoexperiencesuccessintheprocessofdoingthings,theywillbeconvincedoftheirabilityandformapositiveself-evaluationtoimprovetheirself-esteem.Therefore,parentsshouldletgoattherighttimeandletthechildrendothingsindependently.Ifparentsdoeverything,itwillnotonlymakechildrendeveloplazyhabits,butalsomakechildrendoubttheirability,thusaffectingtheformationofself-esteem.Itisneithertoodifficultnortooeasyforparentstolettheirchildrendo.Thedifficultylevelshouldbeachievedbythechildthroughhardwork.ThefamouseducatorChenHeqinaskedhissontosendalettertohisteacherwhenhissonwastwoyearsoldandelevenmonthsold.(Theplacewheretheteacherlived,twohundredyardsawayfromtheirhome),ChenHeqinfarawayLookingattheback.Atfirst,IknockedonthefrontdoorofMr.,butbecausetherewasnopromise,Iheardit.ChenHeqinsawhimcomingbackandranovertohimandsaid,"Gotothebackdoor."Hewenttothebackdoor.WhenIsawapersonathome,Igavethislettertohim.Inthisregard,ChenHeqinsaid:"Ifthethingsdonearetooeasy,thenthechildrenarenothappytodoit,thesecondisnotenterprising,andthethirdisthattheparentslookdownonhimandaskhimtodosuchaneasything,IamafraidNothappy;onthecontrary,theparentstoldhimtodothingsthatweretoodifficult,thenthechildrenwereafraidtodoit,andthesecondthoughtthattheparentsabusedhimandtoldhimtodosuchadifficultthing,andhewouldhatehisparentsinthefuture.Therefore,itisnottooeasyforaparenttocallachildtodothings.Itisnottoodifficult.Whenhecandowhathecan,heiscalledtodoit."Mysonlikestowatchmecooksincechildhood.Whenhewastwoorthreeyearsold,whenIwascooking,Iaskedhimtodosomesimplethingsforme,suchaspeelinggarlicandstirringeggliquid.Whenhewasfourorfiveyearsold,Iaskedhimtodosom

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Self-esteem refers to a person's self-worth or self-image, which is an overall evaluation of the individual. High self-esteem people have a good sense of self-worth and a positive self-image, and people with low self-esteem have a low self-worth and a negative self-image. Self-esteem plays an important role in the growth of children and is the internal motivation for children's self-improvement. A child with high self-esteem is full of confidence in her ability and value. She is optimistic about learning and living, and experiences the joy of success. On the contrary, a child with low self-esteem always tends to deny his ability and value, lacks the motivation to be aggressive, and is prone to emotional experience of inferiority, helplessness and anxiety, which has many negative effects on the development of mind and body.
Children's self-esteem is gradually established in daily life. The attitudes and ways of parents treating children have an important impact on the formation of children's self-esteem. Therefore, in family education, parents should understand and respect children on the one hand, carefully care for the child's tender and sensitive mind, protect the child's self-esteem and protect it from harm; on the other hand, parents should adopt appropriate educational methods and gradually cultivate Children's self-esteem.
First, parents should accept children.
Accepting children requires parents to affirm the child's strengths and achievements, as well as to accept the child's shortcomings and deficiencies. Only when the child is affirmed, accepted and recognized by the parents, and is sure that the parents truly love him will gain a sense of security and thus lay a good foundation for building self-esteem.
When Viny Wright, the daughter of the American educator Mrs. Sterna, was five years old, she was already a very assertive child. One day, they went on an outing with some friends. Because it was spring, everyone wore a relaxed spring dress, but Viny Wright had to wear her green coat because she thought the green coat looked good.
Mrs. Stena said to her daughter: "It is not winter now, the weather is hot. If you go out in a coat, it will be very difficult." But the daughter insisted on her own opinion. At the place of play, the other children wore light clothes, and only Venefit was wearing a thick coat and sweating hot. She noticed that other children were looking at her with strange eyes, so she wanted to find an excuse to leave. At this time, Mrs. Stena took out the spring clothes she had prepared for her daughter. She saved her self-esteem by saving her daughter from her shackles without revealing her traces. In this regard, Mrs. Stena said: "If you don't bring your daughter a spring outfit that day, let her endure the discomfort caused by being too thick, and the strange vision of other children, or in front of everyone. Laughing at her, it will definitely hurt her self-esteem."
On the contrary, if parents do not accept children, it will hurt the child's self-respect. The three-year-old Yue Yue and a few four-year-old children play the game of "race" together. Because they are younger, they always fall behind. Despite this, he didn't care, and he still had a good time with his friends. But the more and more mother looked angry at the side, she began to marry her son: "How do you be so stupid, always run away from others." She squatted and glared at him. The more and more reluctantly I burst into tears. The more and more mothers did not realize that the son and the small partner raced, did not care about the outcome of the game, but enjoyed the joy of the game; she did not realize that it was not his son who was stupid to run at the end, and It is because his age is smaller than other children; she does not even realize that she is scolding her son because she can't accept the fact that her son is running in the end, hurting his self-esteem.
Second, parents should encourage their children to try boldly and experience success in doing things.
If children can do things independently and continue to experience success in the process of doing things, they will be convinced of their ability and form a positive self-evaluation to improve their self-esteem. Therefore, parents should let go at the right time and let the children do things independently. If parents do everything, it will not only make children develop lazy habits, but also make children doubt their ability, thus affecting the formation of self-esteem. It is neither too difficult nor too easy for parents to let their children do. The difficulty level should be achieved by the child through hard work.
The famous educator Chen Heqin asked his son to send a letter to his teacher when his son was two years old and eleven months old. (The place where the teacher lived, two hundred yards away from their home), Chen Heqin far away Looking at the back. At first, I knocked on the front door of Mr., but because there was no promise, I heard it. Chen Heqin saw him coming back and ran over to him and said, "Go to the back door." He went to the back door. When I saw a person at home, I gave this letter to him. In this regard, Chen Heqin said: "If the things done are too easy, then the children are not happy to do it, the second is not enterprising, and the third is that the parents look down on him and ask him to do such an easy thing, I am afraid Not happy; on the contrary, the parents told him to do things that were too difficult, then the children were afraid to do it, and the second thought that the parents abused him and told him to do such a difficult thing, and he would hate his parents in the future. Therefore, it is not too easy for a parent to call a child to do things. It is not too difficult. When he can do what he can, he is called to do it."
My son likes to watch me cook since childhood. When he was two or three years old, when I was cooking, I asked him to do some simple things for me, such as peeling garlic and stirring egg liquid. When he was four or five years old, I asked him to do some hard work for me, such as choosing vegetables, washing vegetables, peeling potatoes and so on. By the time he was six or seven years old, he could do some simple meals with my help, such as fried eggs and boiled noodles. According to the age of my son, I made it easy for him to do some cooking-related activities, which not only made his interest in cooking more and more, but also made him more and more capable of cooking. Great confidence.
Once again, parents should be good at discovering the strengths and strengths of their children and give positive comments.
Parents should appreciate the child from the heart, discover the child's strengths and strengths, and affirm and admire, so that the child will have a positive psychological experience, and the heart is full of beautiful and pleasant feelings. In the long run, the positive evaluation of parents will be internalized as a child's self-evaluation, so that the child will form a good self-image and gradually enhance self-esteem.
My son showed a love for painting when he was very young. He often picks up the brush and keeps drawing. He was very focused when he was painting, he could sit there and paint for a long time, and his paintings were very novel and showed a rich imagination. After discovering my son's interest in painting, I consciously paid attention to my son's paintings, often admiring his paintings, and giving appropriate praise and encouragement. His son's interest in painting is becoming more and more intense. His work was hung on the wall with my encouragement. That cartoon painting - Mickey Mouse, Donald Duck, Crayon Shinchan, Detective Conan ... different looks, cute and cute, all show his son's love for good things and his artistic interest.
Finally, parents should use criticism and punishment with caution to protect their child's self-esteem.
If parents pay too much attention to their shortcomings and deficiencies, and criticize and punish their children, they will cause the child to have a negative psychological experience, thus self-denial and self-depreciation. Over time, children will develop a negative self-image and produce a lower level of self-esteem. Therefore, parents should use less and use criticism and punishment with caution. If a child makes a mistake, he must criticize and punish, and also pay attention to techniques and methods so as not to hurt the child's self-respect.
My son was brought up by my parents from an early age, and my grandfather loved him. He also had deep feelings for his grandfather. However, as his son grew older, he became more and more impatient with his grandfather's love.
One day, our family had dinner together, and in the face of the hustle and bustle of the cold, the son responded with impatience to a few words, but he still reported a tolerant smile and soft whispers. We didn’t say anything about this.
After coming out of my parents' house, we said to my son very seriously: "There was one thing you did wrong. How can you treat you with such an attitude? If you don't say you, but she feels good? Respecting the elders is the most basic courtesy of being a man, let alone treating you with care for you?"
The son lowered his head silently, and his heart was definitely touched. In the future, his son never showed any words or deeds that he did not respect his grandfather. If we criticize the children in public that day, it will not only undermine the atmosphere of family life, but also hurt the son's self-respect, and at the same time get the protection of the grandfather, which is not conducive to his son's mistakes. Mr. Chen Heqin believes that children should not be punished in front of others. He said: "Either adults and children are ashamed. Most children especially like to be comprehensive. If parents are to marry him in front of others, He thought that he had been humiliated and would resent his parents."
The former Soviet educator Suhomlinski said: "Children's dignity is the most sensitive corner of the human mind. Protecting children's self-respect is the potential power to protect children." If parents can hold a heart of understanding and respect Careful care, careful training, then the child will sprout true self-esteem, so that the potential can be fully utilized.

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